A truthful new year

When I sat down to write this first post of 2016, I had a pause. It took me a few days to think about what to say. I see fel­low col­leagues dis­cuss­ing cleanses or new exer­cise regimes for 2016, and I under­stand why they write them. They want to inspire oth­ers to be bet­ter, to take care of their bod­ies, and to reach the goals they want to reach. I want that too for my cli­ents and read­ers of this little blog, how­ever this year it was­n’t in me to be inspiring.

It’s in me to be real, and honest.

In liv­ing in the now and being where you are, if your goals are to become and be bet­ter, you must indeed accept where you are, acknow­ledge your weak­nesses (and love them as best you can), and move forward.

I have watched many people take on new cleanses, or decide to be vegan, or start a new exer­cise régime and with­in a week or two when it gets tough/​boring/​embarrassing they com­pletely give up. And they begin to whine about it, and blame every­one around them or them­selves very harshly.

Let’s take a step back.

Yes, it’s a new year, and it has allowed you to ree­valu­ate your goals. It’s a won­der­ful thing!

Let’s think big, and boldly, by all means!

Let’s not how­ever, assume that these new and won­der­ful changes won’t bring chal­lenges of their own. Hardships, and struggle are a part of bet­ter­ment just as much as any­thing else.

If your goal is to be in shape, then begin work­ing out. Sweat. Do this many times a week. Be hon­est that the pro­cess will be hard, and hum­bling and pain­ful and amaz­ing, and that it will require self-dis­cip­line and ded­ic­a­tion. A hell of a lot of say­ing no to your­self and oth­ers. Also be hon­est with your­self that in tak­ing on said new régime, you will not look like Jillian Michaels in 3 days. She is an inspir­a­tion, and she has shown that it takes ded­ic­a­tion and per­sist­ence and a heck of a lot of say­ing no. She is also very hon­est about that. Things take time to mani­fest into what you want to achieve.

If you want to change your job, and start to work at mak­ing money at the pas­sion you have always had, then you need to start WORKING at that pas­sion and giv­ing it the same atten­tion you give Facebook, Twitter, your obses­sion with wine and the latest-house­wives-of-whatever-show that’s on TV. You need to work your butt off at it and keep work­ing on it to become bet­ter at so people will indeed pay you for your pas­sion. Again, it is a lot of ded­ic­a­tion and hon­esty that your first attempts to sell fur­niture do not look like a table but more like a lop­sided chair and you must start again. It will be hum­bling, but you must be hon­est and get help in oth­ers mak­ing you hon­est about that progress.

If you want to have more fun, you need to start get­ting out of the house, and off the couch and try­ing some­thing new. Meet new people. Hate them, or like them. Start a class. As long as you are learn­ing some­thing new, you will indeed have more fun than being where you are right now.

Change comes from action and activity.

It also comes with acknowledgment.

I, for example, have a pen­chant for wine and chocol­ate. If I desire to be more toned, then I must let go of the wine and chocol­ate. I can choose to keep them in my life, but then I must accept the con­sequences of that also. I am in con­trol, and I have the power to make the decision that put me in one dir­ec­tion, or anoth­er. I can also decide that in releas­ing wine and chocol­ate that I will not take up addi­tion­al car­di­ovas­cu­lar exer­cise. But then I must accept that ‘get­ting toned’ will take far longer, and in fact, may not hap­pen at all.

These are my choices.

My recom­mend­a­tion to myself is to be hon­est. What do I want?

I dir­ect the same ques­tion to you:

What do you really want?

And once you fig­ure it out, then go get it. Be it. Attain it. Change to live it.
-A. Earls

And in the words of Yoda for you Star Wars fans,

Do, or do not. There is no try.

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