Feelings are a speed bump, not a road block: Empathy, Part 2

So in Part 1, we talked about a few things:

  1. Feelings impact the phys­ic­al body
  2. Some of these feel­ings have pre­dict­able loc­a­tions in the body, and some­times they do not
  3. Everyone exper­i­ences this to some degree (some more some less, but every­one abso­lutely does)
  4. These feel­ings if they are not prop­erly addressed in a con­scious way, can add to the bur­den of ill­ness to which the body can cope with
  5. This is not sci­en­tific­ally meas­ur­able, which is a pain in the a$%

Wouldn’t it be great to quanti­fy (object­ively meas­ure) how feel­ings affect your body? It would hon­estly save every­one so much time and energy.

Until that time, you have to be your own detect­ive. You need to ask your­self:

Are my phys­ic­al symp­toms in any way supported/​related to how I might be feeling/​coping/​thinking about a situation/​person in my life?

If the answer is yes, then you must also say to your­self:

This is not always con­scious, but I’m going to allow myself sup­port in get­ting some answers.

And finally…are these feel­ings mine? Do they belong to me? Am I own­ing situations/​pain that is not mine?

Dealing with the Physical Results of Empathy

  1. Learn about what is yours, and what is not yours
    When you feel angry, where do you feel it in your body? Sadness? Joy? Know your own emo­tions. Learn to become friends with your emo­tions, so that they are not so intim­id­at­ing. They are just alert­ing you.
  2. What is yours, feel it in a safe way
    Can you allow your­self to feel angry, by just acknow­ledging it?? Do you have healthy releases for angry (exer­cise, punch­ing a pil­low, vent­ing to a friend, scream­ing into a pil­low)
  3. What is not yours, release it in a safe way
    See above. You know when you’re around a friend that is griev­ing or really ticked off? Think about how you often can absorb their mood. Then think about how you can choose to not carry it into the rest of your day/​week — and do it.
  4. Continue to take care of your body in the best ways you know (which may need help from someone else)
    A healthy body will always allow a release of phys­ic­al pent-up energy. A bath, a walk out­side, vig­or­ous exer­cise or res­tor­at­ive yoga…nourishing foods…water…do the things that make your body say “Ahhhh”

I leave these tips with you and wish your self-explor­a­tion well.

Feelings are present, and should not be feared, but embraced, and released.

To your health!

XO

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