Infant and Pregnancy Loss Awareness Day
I am privileged to work with many individuals, throughout their lives on many different paths. Grief and loss is an intrinsic part of my work, as every day throughout our lives we experience loss that is a part of living. Acknowledging life and those who have past is an essential part of many cultures, and in the North American traditions in merging many cultures it would seem we are adept at this, however in practice we are slightly more reluctant to discuss grief and death. It is an important part of living to recognize losses and to incorporate them into our daily lives, and to move forward and grow from these experiences.
Miscarriage and the loss of new life in infancy are topics that many couples and families deal with on a regular basis. So much so, that an awareness group was created in 1988 under Ronald Reagan which became the official date of October 15th each year called the Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remberance Day (PAILRD). The Canadian Foundation for October 15th or CFO continues this tradition, and began in New Brunswick to honour PAILRD’s mission. Now every year on October 15th at 7:00 pm (19:00 h) candles are lit throughout North America to honour and remember these children and their families.
The Wee One
To share her experience of miscarriage and to help us all raise awareness of grief and loss, a special and brave patient has wrote her experience of her miscarriage and loss of her Wee One so that we all may become more sensitive to those who have lost their loved ones. A day like today is only too fitting for a dialogue to continue and expand on these issues, and to realize that none of us are alone in grief and loss.
What to expect when you’re miscarrying is a beautiful and truthful account of miscarriage, love and loss. I could not be more honoured to have this on my blog. Please click on the link above to read this account of miscarriage, as to understand is to honour and to learn and help others.
How you can be a support
I’m sure however, most of you would like to know how you can help more than just lighting a candle. Sometimes knowing what to say and how to be a comfort to a friend or family member who has lost during pregnancy or shortly following birth may be difficult, and perhaps you are afraid to say the wrong things? PILARI, or the Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Research and Information Foundation, has wonderful resources to help you understand and the right things to say. Showing your non-judgmental love and support regardless is a wonderful first step. Take a look at their resources!